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Breast Confidence
Running a site like the Breast Chronicles, I get a lot of feedback asking how I am so confident about my body - and my breasts in particular, obviously. I want to point out that it is very much a developed confidence, not something that comes naturally.
I started developing early, around age 9, and as a result have always been very shy and self-conscious about my breasts. I always regretted their size - I grew out of a B-cup when I was about 14 years old, and found that even C-cup breasts weren't simple to clothe. This reinforced the idea that they were entirely too big - and I never liked their shape much, either (the surgically enhanced world of Hollywood told me that breasts should soar skywards, rather than rest against my chest). Gradually though, helped a lot by my boyfriend Ash (and latterly by my breast-inspired weblog), I've become infinitely more at peace with my body. And thank goodness, because they've now grown to a double-D!
Ash made a difference in my life in that he would always compliment me, and say that other men were impressed by my bust. He makes me feel that he's proud to be seen with me, and encourages me to display cleavage or wear tight clothes when we go out. He is one of the primary factors in my acceptance of my body.
For my part, I've made myself believe that my breasts really are desirable. After all, thousands of women every year endure risky surgery, with an often painful aftermath, to achieve what I have been given by nature. And, with the increased availability of 'plus-size' ranges from lingerie manufacturers, I am no longer faced with a horribly daunting experience when I'm shopping for bras. I can easily find attractive bras in my size, and with online boutiques like Double-D.com I don't have to prepare myself for the disappointment of finding a pretty bra only to discover that it isn't available in my size.
I also convinced myself that I had nothing to be shy about. Even if my breasts are bigger than a lot of other people's, so what? In the greater scheme of things, what difference does it make? I'm now quite happy to be seen semi-naked by close friends (mostly male), it doesn't matter to me - I know, after all, that they're not going to think any less of me because of my boobs! In fact, my confidence probably improved their impression of me, if anything. Now, I'm not saying you have to 'get yer tits out for the lads' whenever you have the opportunity, but know not to feel embarrassed to be in possession of breasts.
Latterly, this website has helped me gain confidence about my body and about myself. Writing about my breasts has helped me develop a more intimate relationship with them, thinking about them more and enjoying them. What's more, it's a fantastic feeling when I recieve e-mails from women telling me they love the site!
For men (or lesbians!) who are worried about their partner's attitude towards their breasts, the only advice I can offer is to reassure. Ash helped me by making me feel desirable. If she's concerned about their size, make her see the benefits: tell her that her large breasts are sexy and coveted, or her small breasts are fashionable - she can get away with those sexy backless styles without care!
For women who want to improve their relationship with their breasts, I'd suggest buying some pretty bras and talking about them. Share your breasts - they're an important part of your life, from every aspect. Delight in the girlishness of talking about cup-sizes and cleavage. I love talking about breasts; it's a very liberating feeling, and running 'The Breast Chronicles' has been a personally enlightening experience. Trust me.