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Beauty and the Breast
Before I begin with the subject at hand, let me first say what I look for in a woman: intelligence and wit, a great smile with expressive eyes, and a modicum of good looks. Yes, that sounds rehearsed - but it isn't. I'm 29 years old, and I get extremely frustrated with people my age using the word "like" in every other sentence when other words are more appropriate. I value a humorous or insightful conversation with a woman much more than a gawk at Pamela Lee (or insert the woman du jour here). I can probably assume that's expected (or at least desired) of the men who contribute to this e-zine, but I thought I'd make myself clear on that front. The opinions are my own, and you may choose to agree or disagree. I hope this e-zine continues to grow with responses. It's very refreshing to see a site like this.
When Was I First Aware?
When I was young, I noticed Barbara Eden in "I Dream of Jeannie" looked, well, very nice in her outfit. I also noticed a certain teacher in my elementary school was extremely curvy. The memories of mammaries go way back, but in truth I still cannot understand why I like them so much. I agree with a previous article by Leigh Flanigan that dismisses men's attraction to large breasts because of some enhanced ability by the woman to reproduce or the desire to recreate a mother/son bonding relationship. I wonder if Oedipus was breastfed... nah... nevermind. Some men may put stock in those theories, but I do not. However, I do believe if a woman wants a man to pay a lot of attention to that area - and he does - that can really form a bond between the lovers that isn't rooted in anything Freud would have a field day with. Eye contact, physical closeness, holding, scalp massages, moans, and kisses all add to what can be an extremely intimate act that can stand on its own just like kissing or holding hands.
Why Are Breasts Beautiful?
1. They are a symbol of femininity. I came to this conclusion a few years ago. Again, I must agree with Leigh. Many physical traits can be shared by both men and women, but men don't have breasts (unless they're obese). Our reproductive organs are hidden for the most part, but breasts are always visible, even with clothing. They are also soft and warm, both ideal feminine traits. If you've ever put your head on a woman's chest and heard her heart beating, that's femininity in a nutshell.
2. They are basically circles and ovals. You can talk all you want about circles and symbolism (and I do respect that opinion), but breasts are simply pleasing to look at. Look at them from the front, and they're circular. Look at them from the side, and they're circular as well. They are a model of simplicity. They can be molded to fit a certain shape if need be. They can be reigned in. They can be pressed together and form a line (cleavage). Yet, when they're set free, they return to a simple shape: a circle. And I still wonder: Why do I like them if they're so simple?
3. They are one of the first things revealed when a woman makes herself more vulnerable. This isn't always true, but it usually is. In the dating baseball analogy, aren't the breasts second base? If a woman flashes a man, doesn't that man stop down and drop his jaw? I could offer several more illustrations, but I think this is pretty clear--perhaps even too obvious. When a woman decides it's time to go further in a relationship, many times the breasts serve as a benchmark.
(I don't want to sound like I'm plagiarizing Leigh's article. I do agree with his points and have tried to add a couple of my own.)
Why the Breast?
I will add another category of men to breast men and ass men: leg men. Men have their preferences just like women do. I like all parts of a woman, but of the three categories listed above, I'd have to say I'm a breast man first, a leg man second (because I'm 6' 1"), and an ass man third. Compare the three categories, and we'll find some similarities. The ass is something to grab, and it's covered. The legs can look shapely and lead to that most intimate of womanly areas. Perhaps the breasts offer both of these characteristics. We see breasts, yet we don't. They're touchable. Following the neck (point A) to the breasts (point B), two points make a line, that line leads down to that most intimate of womanly areas. Sure, that's a bit of a reach. Hey...I'm just trying to say something a little different than what's been said already.
What Are Perfect Breasts?
An extremely subjective question. In the end, usually proportion is the key. Bigger is not always better. There is such a thing as too big. Personally, I would limit "too big" to the women on pornographic Internet sites and strippers who subscribe to the Tim Taylor (of the TV show "Home Improvement") who believe if some is good, ten times as much must be better. If a woman is top-heavy, that's just fine. In addition, big breasts do not mean a woman should be considered fat! I personally do not like the extremely thin look. In the supermodel world, Laetitia Casta strikes me as having the right look. From the pictures I've seen of her, her body doesn't seem to fit that of the stereotypical model. She seems to be a bit thicker and a bit bustier. I could be wrong.
Other factors seem silly to me, such as the size of the areola. Are you kidding me? If that area is more sensitive than the breast, why would any guy want it small? If we have a chance to stimulate a highly sensitive area, by all means, let's seize the opportunity! And the color of the areola and nipple? Please! What - do they come in flavors now? Why didn't someone inform me of this? To grossly paraphrase the bard, "a nipple by any other color is still a nipple." What a thought - a breast man with a beautiful woman, but he's disappointed because her areolas are too big and the wrong color. Believe me, if those are your only problems, you're in great shape.
The splendor of large breasts does not wear off. But there is a caveat to this statement: If a woman appears apathetic about breast stimulation, the grandeur vanishes in the blink of an eye. This is true for being with a woman of any size. In my HUMBLE opinion, the most perfect breasts are the most sensitive ones. Combine serious breast sensitivity with a woman who loves her breasts and a man who loves her and showing her breasts attention, and you have the makings of two happy lovers.
So What's the Point?
Sorry to keep you so long, reader. I've already written much more than I intended. But I must say a couple more things. I still don't know why I like breasts so much. But being with a woman who loves her breasts and desires her lover's attention to her breasts is...well...a fantasy of mine that hasn't quite been realized yet. If it doesn't happen, it doesn't happen. If it does...well...I doubt I'll wipe the smile off my face for the rest of my life.
I believe in communication during lovemaking. I believe a woman should talk to me and guide me around her breasts (as well as the rest of her). She should be in a position of strength and control, not submissive and idle - even when she's being ravished. I also believe it's silly for a breast man to wish for a woman with large breasts only to suck on her nipples for 30 seconds! The love scenes in the movies are wrong! If you don't already, enjoy the whole breast, guys. Enjoy both of them. Listen to her. Be slow if she wants you to be slow. Tease her, making her concentrate on what you haven't done yet and where you are at the moment. Don't go in for the kill so soon. And no matter what she likes, make her happy. And, like I said, you can take my opinions and tell me to stuff them.
by Todd