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This article is a response to the piece posted by Leila on her boyfriend’s opinions on breasts. With all due respect to that article, I thought the subject deserved some more exploration. So, I asked myself the same questions (I’m a mid-twenties professional male living with my girlfriend), and these are my thoughts, and mine alone. Guys, I do not expect you to agree with my opinions, nor girls to agree. I’m just spitballing here.
What is it about breasts?
There is the obvious response that a man’s attraction to breasts stems from the subconscious instincts derived from out primitive ancestors that a woman with large breasts and wide hips represents an ideal candidate for reproduction of the species (the “hips, lips and tits” theory). I find myself placing little faith in this presumption, and while it may have some merit, the majority of the free world is no longer wrestling sabre-tooth tigers and there are more modern social conditions that affect men’s behaviour.
Then, the maternal argument – the newborn babe in arms still suckles from the mother, and this forms an important emotional bond with the child, which may develop into some latent desire in later life (for guys). Personally, I can’t justify this argument either.
My opinion? Three things:
They represent femininity
Men desire women. Men desire womanliness and femininity. What physical characteristics of women convey womanliness and femininity as
opposed to maleness and masculinity? Both genders can have long hair, slender limbs, long lashes, full lips. Only women can have breasts.
They are that which is uniquely feminine. OK, the reproductive organs are unique to both genders, but for the most part, they are kept covered
up and out of sight. For want of a better analogy, breasts are in the front window – the more valuable goods are kept behind the counter.
They are curvaceous
Man and God’s greatest work is invariably curvy, contoured, smooth, rounded, voluptuous – e.g. rainbows, the petals of a rose, the body of
a Porsche. Tall buildings and sparking diamonds may be impressive, but hard, cold lines and engineered facets do not possess the simple beauty
and warmth of breasts. Angular and sharp edifices may have their merit, but are not as attractive to the eye or the touch.
They are hidden from us
Having established that men like breasts then enters the supply vs. demand factor – we want them, and women do not give them to us. They
are covered up all day, straining against blouses, or playing under T-shirts. Plunging necklines, tight lycra and revealing bikinis only serve
to tease us with what we know is there, but cannot have. Maybe is it just like that Seinfeld routine – if women had their breasts out all day,
but all wore hats, then men would try to snatch a glimpse of women’s hairline, or go weak at the knees over a tight-fitting beanie.
Why the breasts, exactly? Why not another body part?
Most guys can be separated into a couple of distinct groups – ass men and breast men. Some guys like to see women coming, as some like to see them leaving. I am a breast man. Some guys do not care as much for breasts. Good luck to them - there is probably a “Bum Chronicles” out there in cyberspace for them.
Don’t get me wrong – women can possess many beautiful qualities – personally, I agree with whoever said that the eyes are the windows to the soul. I’m sure that women will attest that you know a guy must be truly interested when he can tear his eyes away from your cleavage and make serious eye contact during a conversation, right?
What’s your idea of the perfect pair of breasts?
This question is pretty subjective, so let me posit something a little more appropriate and objective:
“What makes one pair of breasts physically attractive relative to another?”
To me, the answer to this is simple: proportion. I’m not talking about one breast to the other (but symmetry is nice), but in proportion to the bearer. An example:
Picture in your mind the host of this site, the lovely Charlotte. Picture also, say, Lara Flynn Boyle. Two attractive women, from head to toe. Now put Charlotte’s breasts on Lara, and vice versa. Doesn’t that look ridiculous? Much like putting a Rolls Royce engine in a Ferrari – still quality parts, but you know they don’t work best with that model.
Larger is not always better. For women, breasts that are too large for the frame to which they are attached can be anything from a logistical problem (you jog! they gallop!), to a frustration (you go to the underwear section; the salesgirl directs you to manchester), to a serious physical concern (chronic back pain, which afflicted my well-endowed sister-in-law until her reduction surgery last year). Also, as it relates to us guys, the novelty of large breasts does wear off. As my brother put it, “After a while, they just get in the way”. Maybe all you large-breasted girls out there who ever wondered why some guy couldn’t keep his eyes or hands off your breasts all night, until you were in bed and they were ignored after two minutes, can identify with that. Smaller is not always better. While it may be a bit harsh, like most good things in life, it’s probably better to have too much than not enough.
Anything else you’d like to say about breasts?
Ask me what degree I would like to see a woman naked – anywhere from fully dressed to naked as a jaybird. I would say somewhere in between – say, wearing lingerie, or a bikini. Ask a woman about man, and I would bet you’d get a similar-type answer. Why? Because some parts of the body look better being hidden or supported, as opposed to “out & about”.
Why? It adds allure and mystery. Large breasts may look phenomenal in push up bras, being lifted and supported, but I’m sure when they are unleashed, they can sag, droop, hang unevenly, etc (unless, of course, you have had some cosmetic “front-end extensions” installed). The idea of nipple can be just as great as an actual peek. Small breasts can be given shape and volume that nature has not provided them.
The same applies for guys – I admit our family jewels are not our best feature in their natural state. Best to keep them tucked away until they are needed.